Archive for December, 2011


Scary Sweetness

Today, I was brave and decided to keep Alvin home with me and the girls while Larry worked.  Larry has had Alvin all week while he is on winter break from school and has been staying with Larry’s grandmother.  I figured that she could use a break and, really, what is the big deal about having one more kid in the house?  Right?

Well, the big deal is the kid.  He is definitely all boy and he is younger than my two.  He is the pesky little brother that they never wanted.  He was up early and, being this is not his house yet, has been bored out of his mind most of the morning.

Luckily, Jeanette is much more patient than Brittney.  She has tried her hardest to entertain him and help me out.  They have colored. They played the Wii.  You name it she has tried it.  Her patience was wearing thin when I sent them both out in the backyard to play.

Finally, a moment of peace.  What is any mother to do when the house is quiet?  I retreated to the bathroom.  And, within a minute, the commotion returned with Jeanette running into the house in a panic.

“Mom!  Something is wrong with Alvin!” she screamed.  My heart skipped a beat.  What had the little monster done to himself?  I had only turned my back for a minute.  I played out a thousand scenarios in my mind.

I quickly finished and came out of the bathroom to see what destruction had occurred.  When I asked Jeanette what had happened she made a horrible face.  With great disgust she exclaimed, “He hugged me!”

Today, there was a glimmer of hope amidst the chaos.  There might be hope for this little dysfunctional family yet.


Sugar and Spice

All the way home, Jeanette was complaining that her stomach hurt.  So, when we got home, she ran straight for the bathroom and locked herself in.  Moments later there was a knock at the door.  Larry, my boyfriend, had to go.  He had to go bad.

Jeanette finished up quickly and exited the room.  Larry entered and came back out.  Apparently, she had not flushed.  Her response, “Well you had to go so bad, I just got out.  Guess you don’t have to go so bad after all if that bothers you.”

I could not help but laugh.  Poor Larry; and he thought that little girls were all sugar and spice.



Murder suicide.  I almost never heard of murder suicide as a child.  And in my adult life, I hear the phrase time and time again.  We all do.  We eventually become immune to the phrase.  We distance ourselves from the event removing the reality of what occurred.

Then it happens.  Today, a police officer was killed in the line of duty.  A gunman could be loose on the campus.  Time stands still.  A second victim is found.  Four hours later it is determined that the second victim is the shooter.  Suddenly, the victim that was being mourned is forgotten.

It is sad how the media and community moves on.   How the media forgets that there were two that died.  While there are two families that mourn the loss of a loved one, one is revered and one is either despised or forgotten.

Tonight I mourn for two families.  Two mothers lost their sons.  A void that can never be replaced.  I pray that they find peace and that the community is able to move past the shock, fear, and grief that consumes them tonight.