Posts Tagged ‘diet

09
Nov
16

Words Hurt

Sunday afternoon, my younger daughter was invited to go to the local trampoline park with a friend. The girls have been friends for a long time and I was glad to have them hang out as I really do like this particular friend.

Up until this point, I have only had the opportunity to deal with the girl’s father as her parents are divorced. This outing was to be under the mother’s watch. Before leaving, my daughter said that she had been warned by her friend not to discuss politics and that her friend had told her mother not to bring the subject up. I thought it was a little odd, but let it go. As always, I made sure my daughter had sufficient funds for the outing and left to run some errands.

When I returned home, my daughter was still there. The woman was almost an hour late picking her up.

A couple of hours later, my daughter returned. She adamantly stated that she would never do anything with the woman again. Upon some probing I was able to get a few issues out of her:

The woman did not have change and wanted to purchase a locker. My daughter paid for the locker and upon putting her own belongings in the locker, the woman snarled her face.

After they played for some time, the trio wanted drinks. My daughter’s friend said they would just buy the drink since she paid for the locker. Instead of doing so, the mother pulled the daughter aside, but not out of hearing distance and said she would NOT buy my daughter a drink. My daughter had to go back to the locker room and retrieve her own money. She purchased herself a big blue slurpee and made her daughter get water.

Then, the woman started talking politics. My daughter tried to politely change the subject and the woman pressed the issue. Apparently, she really pressed the issue and my daughter finally had to say she did not want to talk about it. To change the topic, the woman started talking about how great her job was and how much money she made.

On the way back to my house, they stopped and grabbed dinner-the mother and daughter did. They did not ask my daughter if she wanted anything which was a little rude but whatever. She proceeded to tell her daughter that she had to get a salad even though it was her “cheat day” because she did not want her getting any fatter. The mom got a burger with an extra patty and sides.

My daughter was completely floored as she told me about everything that happened. Not only was she appalled at the way she was treated by an adult but she was more upset over the way the woman treated her own daughter making issue about her weight and such.

The next day at school, the girl apologized for her mother’s behavior and repaid my daughter out of her own money which was totally not necessary. She said she was sorry if her mother insulted her and my daughter was taken back because while she had been rude, it was not insulting. With that being the case, my daughter asked what she meant and the girl said she was talking about the comments that the woman made about our house.  I guess it was not up to her standards because I need to trim the hedges and I have a board that needs replaced on the porch.

There is just so much wrong with the situation that it makes my blood boil. First, don’t be ugly to my kid. I am not entirely sure why there was a chip on the woman’s shoulder from the get go, but you don’t treat kids like that period. Second, I don’t care how big your kid is, you do not shame them. You definitely do not shame them in front of their peers. Frankly, maybe if you were seriously worried about your kid’s size you would skip the fast food period, but whatever. Acting like that is what leads girls to sneak food and then purge later. It damages their spirit.

While I probably should not be as offended as I am over the woman’s comments and actions, I am pissed. As I said before, I have never met this woman. For the years I have known her daughter, I have never laid eyes on her at a school function. She has never been in the car pool lane in front of or behind me. I do not know what their situation is, but I do know that she is not there. I guess taking her kid to do fun stuff and bragging about money is her way of making herself feel better.

My house might not be the nicest on my block, but it is mine just like everything else that we have. I am the ONLY parent my girls have and it has been that way for ten years now. Things like replacing that board on the front porch gets put on the back burner so that I can pay for field trips or name brand shoes for my kids to fit in with the rest. Yeah, my hedges need trimmed, but put that off. Instead, I decided to take my last free weekend to take my girls camping because we had been going nonstop since July with marching band. Yeah, I am that involved parent at EVERY event, or as close to it as I can manage while working full time building my career, not just a job, and going to school full time to better myself. I do not have the luxury of being that fair weather, fun parent but I try to let my kids have a normal childhood and you can bet that if I am inviting someone else’s kid somewhere that I am going to ask if they want a drink or need something to eat when I order for myself and my own kids. Regardless of how much or how little money I have, I will treat everyone that is in my presence the same. I am the ONLY parent my girls have and it has been that way for ten years now. Things like replacing that board get put on the back burner so that I can pay for field trips or name brand shoes for my kids to fit in with the rest. I cannot always give them everything, but I try to give them some of the things they want.

I am tired. I am overwhelmed. I seem to stay that way, but I do it because I want more for my kids. To hear such crappy things hurts because I do try hard.

People really need to think before they speak.

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23
Aug
16

Returning to the Crazy

Routine has returned! Thank you, sweet baby Jesus! Excited to be returning to our brand of crazy-school, extra-curriculars, and busy social lives make me happy.

Yesterday was the first day of school for the girls and to say I was thrilled might be an understatement. It is kind of crazy that I am excited as I am since the girls are old enough to stay home alone and do whatever, but things just run so much smoother when we all have routines. And, even though it is only day two, I am already feeling better about life.

In an ideal world, I would resume my morning workout schedule and hit the gym from 5:30-6:30 daily. Yesterday, I overslept (the first day of school-go me!). This morning I did it. Funny thing but hitting the gym gives me a great start to the day. I am put together somewhat and was able to even start a load of laundry this morning.

This year is especially nice with regards to back to school since both of my girls are in high school. They are back on the same schedule for the most part. No more crazy long bus rides in the afternoons or worrying that someone might miss a bus in the mornings. We are walking distance from the high school-SCORE!

My younger daughter is going to be taking a zero period class if they ever fix her schedule. This will mean that if I take her, I will be out of the house early enough to actually get to work on time. As of right now, that is my plan. I may have to adjust my morning routine a bit for this, but I think it will be a good change.

With the return to us all being on schedule comes better life decisions. I am back on the meal planning bandwagon. Whichever kid gets home first starts preparing whatever is needed for dinner. Last night, my daughter had lasagna on the table by the time her sister and I got home. The crockpot is my friend a lot of the time and I have decided just to keep salad mix and chicken strips on hand if they don’t feel like eating whatever I have planned or if we have an off night for some reason.

In addition to the better eating, we all just seem to work together better when we have our routines. Chores get done in a timelier manner-the board is back. Family study halls become a thing. We all appreciate our down time as well. As if I do not already live for our Tuesday night crap television shows, I really appreciate it when we have all had two full days of crazy.

Funny how much the little things can make a difference. I am a tired, but happy girl this morning. Love our kind of crazy.

28
Jan
16

Vacation Brain

Twenty days from now, I will be on a boat headed towards the Bahamas.  Not that I am counting or anything.  Who am I kidding?  The cruise is about the only thing I have to look forward to lately, so I am all about it.

Setting sail in February would usually not be my first choice, but the rates were decent and we had family going.  Now that we are in the home stretch I have so much on my mind! So much to do, things to get, errands to run.  Ugh. I am a list maker and brain dumping is therapeutic, so you lucky readers get a blog post out of the deal.  Here are just a few of the things that I need to do, buy, etc before we set sail.

  1. I need a haircut. Sure, not a necessity for the trip itself, but omg it is time. Thinking a good four inches will be coming off-possibly as soon as this weekend.  Debating on highlights and low lights, too.  If I do it all, it will probably not be this weekend, so we will see.
  2. Pick up my bathing suit. I finally ordered a swim suit.  I bought one which I think will be good, but wanted a second because the first has mesh and I am afraid that it won’t last very long.  I do not want to be on a boat without a swimsuit, so I ordered one from Lane Bryant.  It is a bikini.  I know, right?  Who am I?  Hopefully it will fit and my girls will not be traumatized.  Related topic:  the thirteen year old needs a second swimsuit.
  3. I need to get a base tan going. I have tanning with my gym package.  I just need to do it.  For some reason, I have a huge mental block there.
  4. It is past time for a pedicure. Enough said.
  5. Eye doctor. Another not necessity, but it kinda is.  I have been wearing glasses all week because my contacts are irritating the devil out of my eyes.  I want contacts.  Gotta make that happen.
  6. I need to check my old stuff, but I am pretty sure I need to buy a new suitcase. We will see.  Not crazy about the expense.
  7. I am a redhead.  Kid number one: redhead.  I think that says it all.
  8. Reading material. I think we are going to have to go sans electronics.  Not interested in paying for whatever roaming charges we would get.  Purchased Wheat Belly.  Think I will try to read and get ready to diet hardcore when I get back since car show season is right around the corner.  Might need a couple of smutty romance novels.
  9. We are down to two pets-woohoo! Hopefully, weather will cooperate and I can get them to my mom’s the day before we set sail. Gotta make sure they have everything they will need and my mom has instructions.  Fingers crossed that my boy behaves!
  10. I am not buying alcohol on the trip and this is with my ex’s family.  For the most part, I am not worried, but still want something to take the edge off if I need it.

Obviously, packing is not on my list.  I think I have that covered.  What am I forgetting?  Thoughts?

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07
Jan
15

Resolution Time!

It is finally a New Year and, of course, that means it is time for resolutions. It has been a while since I took a bit of time to write, so I figured I would document my goals and what I am doing now to reach them.

I guess I will actually start with what I am doing to keep track of my goals. I am starting here because I am super excited over my recent discovery of Google Keep. This app allows you to create lists and have them accessible on the computer and phone. I use the app for everything. I keep every day errand lists, grocery lists, lists of projects for around the house, big ticket purchases that I want to keep an eye out for, and now my resolutions. I figure if it is somewhere I see every day I am less likely to forget and have goals go to the wayside. I can mark things off as they are accomplished to which I LOVE. My other reminder is old school. I have stuck notes to myself on sticky notes to my computer at work for both my work goals and personal.

So what are my goals? It is a very random mix this year….
*Cut out soda
*Complete a Get Fit Challenge that is being offered at my school
*Complete a 100 mile/100 day challenge
*Participate in a Color Run
*Lose 50 lbs.
*Complete camper renovations
*Get camper legal for the road and learn to drive hauling
*Save money to be able to set up camp for the summer
*Pay off credit cards
*Refinance house
*Complete Associates Degree-walk in May!
*Start working towards Bachelors Degree
*Begin working towards work certification
*Develop old film

As you can see, this is a very random list. Luckily, however, I think it is very doable. I am two classes away from my Associate’s degree and have my final semester starting next week. I have already been accepted to a local University and plan to start my Bachelor’s in the fall. I thought about starting this summer, but really want to enjoy some time with my kids.

This summer should be fun! I hope to complete my camper renovations and have her road ready before I graduate. Then, I want her set up so that we can head for the hills after I finish a work week. I was working a second job to make this dream a reality, but that fell through. My new Plan B is just to be frugal and do what I can do. The being frugal deal will also help with my accomplishing the goal of paying off my credit cards. I will check into refinancing soon.

The other big goal for me is losing 50 lbs. I have had diet goals and fitness goals before. Heck, we all have. This year though, I feel a little more confident about it. I signed up for the 100 mile/100 day challenge being offered through our local parks and rec with a couple of friends. We are each doing it individually, but knowing they are doing it too helps. My college is doing a Get Fit Challenge which looked intriguing; I start that adventure next week and can win prizes for working out and losing weight. It is a win-win! I have to meet certain criteria to win such as a minimum number of work outs, weekly weigh ins, etc. It should help me to stay motivated. The Color Run is in April; I will sign up for that shortly. My friend is also doing a virtual 5k in February which I will likely do as well.

I purchased a Camel Bak and I am trying to wean myself away from soda. It is so hard! I have also decided to stop buying lunches out. I figure every month that I do not eat out for lunch I can set aside $20 and then, come summer, hopefully I will be at 50 lbs lost. Once I hit that 50 lb goal, the money I have saved will go towards a tattoo. I don’t have any right now, but I really want one!

It seems like a lot, but I am pretty excited and think that everything is going to fall into place nicely. I love having a busy schedule-it keeps me out of trouble! I would love to hear what others do to track their goals-what are some things that work for you? What are you working towards in 2015?

27
Mar
14

Dinner on the Cheap

It has been a while since I posted anything, especially anything about being frugal. I guess I really just haven’t been inspired. That was until tonight.

This week, I started a diet. I hate to diet. I especially hate it come dinner time. After a long day, no one wants to be cooking and my family has too much going on for me to devote a lot of time to preparing a huge meal which is why I really liked how this turned out…

Monday I had an impromptu trip to the grocery store with my eldest and we found some chicken on sale. We bought two packages of boneless skinless chicken breast for around $3 a package. One package had two breasts and the other had three. It was plenty for our family of four. Honestly, I thought I bought four; the fifth breast was a nice surprise.

This morning, I got smart and decided to pull out the handy dandy crockpot. I put the breasts in with a jar of chunky salsa and then decided it needed a bit more, so I threw in some tomato puree. And off I went to work.
When I got home, the rest came together easy. I made some brown rice and opened a bag of frozen peppers and onions. I put the chicken, veggies, and sauce from the salsa/puree over the rice.

I thought dinner was pretty awesome. The kids gave it mixed reviews.

I had a large breast left over, plenty of sauce and some chicken which had fallen apart left over. So, what to do? I stopped by the store and picked up tortillas, cheese, and sour cream. Tomorrow night, chicken tacos.
As I was putting the chicken away for tomorrow, I was shocked by the amount of sauce I had left. I went ahead and froze the remaining sauce. I figure it will be great in chilli beans. I bought beans on sale the other day.

So basically, I got three meals from what started with $6 of chicken and maybe $3 in canned goods which I threw in the crockpot. And tomorrow’s dinner is planned and super simple. I am a pretty proud of myself.

18
Jul
13

Good Things Are Happening!

So, I have been pretty bad about updating the blog recently.  It is disappointing.  I really enjoy the blog as my outlet, but it is because good things are happening!  I figured I would take a break today and just jot a few of the highlights down.

I am down about sixteen lbs.  I have drastically cut back on my carbs and I am working out a few times a week.  It is pretty slow going, but there is progress being made!

Work has been going very well; I have had a lot of success recently.  I am feeling pretty confident that things are headed in the right direction and that I can stand a few more years in the field which led to my next update….

I am going back to school.  I originally went after high school, but did not take it seriously.  Things went downhill after I became pregnant and, despite my trying to continue, I was never able to complete a degree.  I figure if I start now, I should be able to have my Bachelor’s before my oldest goes to college.  It was astounding to me how much I had done back then; I only need ten classes to get my Associate’s degree.  I signed up last night for two online classes.  I figure two or three classes a semester for the next year and I should be a graduate with my Associate’s by the end of next year!

Things are pretty quiet with the kids at the moment.  We are still taking music lessons.  Camps are pretty much complete, other than marching band camp next month.  My eldest starts marching band next week which is exciting; I am hoping she falls in love with it and that it keeps her motivated with her music.

I think those are the major things going on currently; I have a month until classes start for both myself and the kids.  I am trying to wrap up projects around the house in the meantime.  We also have back to school shopping, doctors appointments, need haircuts, and it would be nice to squeeze in some fun for the remaining of the summer, too!

 

08
Jun
13

Whatever Happened To….

Yes, I am still alive.  Some of you may know this from following me on twitter, but even there it appears I am barely breathing.  What can I say?  Life happens.

This is the first Saturday I have had in a while where I am home, in my pajamas, and able to write.  Frankly life has been a bit crazy.  Still is, really, but I figured I would give anyone wondering whatever happened to that crazy OrneryDame an update.

So, what has been going on?

The school year finished.  Normally, I would not be thrilled with this; I like structure, but my kids really needed a break.  I did too, really.  Spring brought around a ton of activity for the kids.  We had school plays, debates, musical performances, standardized testing, and just tons of tween/teenage drama to end out the year.  Throw on top of that my volunteering to help with organizing the graduation events for the fifth graders and it was enough to drive a girl insane.

Work picked up.  This is actually a very good thing, but I have had some drama there, too.  You cannot please everyone all of the time.  If I could just live by these words, life would be easier, but it is not my nature.

Otherwise, things are going pretty well.  I started a new diet which is really more of a lifestyle change and I feel a lot better so far.  A friend suggested that I try going Primal.  I have been on the diet for about a month and have lost around 7 lbs.  I also, finally, joined the gym.  I have found I really enjoy going.  I have a few friends that go as well and knowing they will be there makes it a little easier to swallow.  I have consistently gone two to five times a week.




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