Time for another chapter in my dating chronicles. Yes, another chapter has officially ended. It was a great two weeks (note some sarcasm).
Luckily, since this whirlwind romance lasted only two weeks, this might not be a terribly long post. I met this one, Manny, on Plenty of Fish, but he had apparently tried to contact me through Tinder which I had cut off about as fast as I turned it on so I did not see his interest. We chatted a bit and hit it off.
The first date with this one went well, we went to dinner and then went our separate ways. I liked him, but could not put my finger on what my hesitation was. I chalked it up to it being new.
We continued to talk and decided to go out again last weekend. The second date went much better. We hit it off very well. We had dinner and drinks out and went back to his house to watch tv. It was a very nice, low key evening. We saw each other again on Wednesday and made plans for Friday.
Throughout the entire time we had been speaking, there was a hesitation on my part which I initially thought was just nerves because we were essentially strangers. Then I started to think that is had something to do with his reminding me of my ex. Really, that is not a bad thing, but it was just a little unsettling. Personality wise, they were very similar. Both had a laid back, devil may care kind of attitude. They were both very social and liked to party.
Manny liked to party. He owned it initially when we talked he said something about it and said “probably too much.” I feel that way myself sometimes, so I initially brushed it off. He didn’t seem too bad when we were out on our dates. I figured we were in the same boat.
Friday came and we were going to do something. He messaged me towards the end of the day and said, “Lets get drunk.” He had a rough week. I told him that it would be a while before I could do anything and to start without me. I figured that I would drive if we went anywhere, but was cool just hanging out at his house and having a drink or two if that was what happened.
I got to his house around 9. I knocked, but he did not hear, so I let myself in. Music was blaring. I found him propped up by his kitchen door looking out at a guy mowing his backyard. He was propped up because he could barely stand he was so drunk. I still do not know what he was trying to tell me because he was unable to initially form sentences.
The guy mowing came inside and the three of us chat for a minute (by this time he was able to speak coherently). Then, the guy that had been mowing says he wants to snort a line. They had cocaine out in the open on the counter in the kitchen. I guess I was so confused initially that I did not notice. He did a line in front of me. I was completely shocked. I guess he saw the look on my face because he asked if I did anything which I said no. He, then, goes outside to smoke.
Manny approached me after his friend went out and leaned in for a kiss. I stopped him and said that I could not be around what they were doing and was not going to stay. He offered to walk me out and I said for him not to bother considering how hard it was for him to stand and told him to be careful.
I got in my car and left still in shock at the night’s events. I called my best friend and rehashed the story. I guess it was at that point that my nerves started to get the best of me and I started gagging going down the road.
I didn’t hear from Manny again until late yesterday when he messaged me to say he was sorry and that he had too much to drink. I seriously doubt that it was just drinking that got him to the state he was in and I honestly do not know if he remembers that I saw witnessed the cocaine use. I just said it was fine and went on about my business.
I am seriously disappointed in this one. He is a nice guy and has a lot that could be going for him. I nailed it when I knew something reminded me of my ex; he was that guy too. He is six feet under now because of bad decisions. I cannot go through that again. Even if it never came to that, I would always worry and wonder. That is no way to live.
So, there you have it. Another chapter of this girl’s dating chronicles has been completed. Thank goodness all of this happened early on and that my gut instinct kept me a little guarded. Now, onto the next big mistake.